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We are working on our next step - proceeding with donor eggs. Looking to donor eggs is a lot to wrap our heads around. We had a donor we liked very much lined up. She was supposed to donate for us after the cycle she was doing for other intendend parents. And that sounded good till after that cycle, when she felt that the retrieval had taken a lot out of her, and she needed time to recover and would not commit to scheduling a cycle for us. So, since it would be very unwise to wait around for an unspecified period of time for her to feel ready, we began looking for another donor.

It is totally understandable, for this woman to need more time for her body to recover. I have done three egg retrievals, and they are rough. At the same time, we can’t put our lives on hold for this one donor.

The hills

We had been waiting since July for this donor, and found out at the end of October that it wasn’t going to happen. Right around my birthday. Fun. The waiting for these things seems endless.

I have looked at about a million donor profiles, through multiple agencies. This first donor felt really right to me, and no others did. However, I looked more and found another donor through a different clinic. I had seen her pictures and she seemed sweet but I didn’t pay a lot of attention. But when I did read through her profile, I really related to what she had to say about her background and her motivations. She had a friend who went through fertility treatment, surrogacy and egg donor, so that brought the process closer to home. She felt her main accomplishment was unwinding and reevaluating her conservative religious upbringing, which I relate to. Also she plays violin and piano. How lovely. So we are switching clinics and are planning to go forward with this donor. Assuming all goes well.

The last few weeks I have been spending time getting records send over from other clinics, filling out forms, and on and on. All these things.

I am feeling anxious but hopeful.